Let’s Talk About Love

Let’s talk about Love. Love, that warm and fuzzy end game we all seek as though it were some type of destination at which to arrive. “In Love”, signed, sealed, and delivered, the pinnacle of relationship goals, right?

Not so fast. I believe that love is fluid and that it is far more of a verb than it is a noun, much more of a journey we commit to taking than it is a state of being we exist in. We fall in connection. We fall into similarities, into joy, and into reciprocity. We fall into lust. But we choose to love as a result of those places we fell. 

It’s not as though we follow a map to a big heart on the road and a welcome sign, “Welcome to Love”. Rather, it’s the twists and turns in that road, the peaks and valleys that we encounter, the sunrises and sunsets that we experience that is love and so too is our decision to get into the proverbial car and take the journey. That is what love is to me. It’s a choice and in choosing to love, I become lovable.

What a privilege it is to choose to love and to be chosen. And just as we choose the path of love because of the places we fell, we don’t fall out of love in some random turn of events. We stop visiting those familiar places of joy, romance, respect, and reciprocity and we choose not to love as a result of our collective absence. 

On the topic of love, choosing ourselves in this proceess can be an elusive option for many people. We are taught to put others first and “take one for the team”… I’m calling bullshit. What do we have to offer others in the realm of love, like, or even appreciation if we don’t first extend those things to oursleves?

Embrace both your peaks and valleys, your sunrises and sunsets. Start choosing yourself, not at the expense of others but for the ultimate benefit of them.